I just love having guests on my site, but I’m particularly excited about my visitor today- Renee, from the Sh! Women’s Store in London.
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Renee on a number of occasions over the last few years. I’ll never forget the first time- I was consumed with nerves, and attempting to face-down a massive bout of stagefright before plunging into my very first public erotic reading. Renee was so reassuing- and I’ll be forever grateful for her “Go for it, you’ll be great” attitude! Renee is great fun, and one of the kindest people I’ve ever known to wield a whip in the name of customer education!!
When Renee offered to share a day in her life as a sexpert with us, I jumped at the chance- it’s over to Renee
My name is Renee, and I’m a professional lady of pleasure.
The above statement may lead you to think I’m a sex worker, and whilst that isn’t the case, I’m most definitely in the field of pleasure. I’m a full-time ‘sexpert’ (and I say that with my tongue planted firmly in my chubby cheek). The modern term is Sex Educator, but few people search cyberspace for those, so by using ‘sexpert’ we ensure we’re easily found! *wink*
I work at Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium in Hoxton, east London, along with a dedicated team of female sex educators known as the Sh! Girlz. The Sh! Girlz are undoubtedly the UK’s friendliest sexperts; offering knowledgeable advice along with cups of tea, to women and couples of all ages. If you haven’t yet been to the store, I’d love for you to come along for what will be an eye-opening experience that’ll have you giggling with delight in no time!
You may wonder how I qualify for my job, and that’d be a fair question. Granted, I don’t have a degree in SexToys & Orgasm, but 20-odd years of practical training (at home, mind you) plus six years of discussing the ins&outs of sex with thousands of women does qualify me in a way that a diploma never could. I read, I write, I listen, I learn – I even look at questionable websites for research purposes (a word of warning here: don’t look at my browser history – you may live to regret it)! I realise I’m very lucky in that my hobby is also my job (and that I have a boss who doesn’t bat an eyelid when I surf sex toy sites during work hours).
Each morning (and when I say ‘morning’, I mean ‘midday’ as that’s when my day starts) I go through my inbox, which is usually packed full. Many emails are from customers wanting help or advice, or young women keen to work with us. And, if you are one of the latter, please pay attention now: Never include pictures of your naked boobs ~ it is so awkward employing someone whose pert nipples I have already seen..!
On any given day, we receive dozens of pervy phonecalls. It could be anything from men trying to order blowjobs, to someone masturbating whilst whispering “are you wearing socks?” One such caller is ‘Richard from Devon’ who calls up regularly to enquire about panties suitable for forced incontinence. I’m not usually one for suggesting customers go elsewhere, but in this case I think stocking up on M&S multi-packs cotton knickers would work out much cheaper…
In this line of business you can’t be easily flustered ~ we handle enema bulbs and butt plugs every single day ~ but I do sometimes get shy. I recently had a pair of sisters in, neither of whom where very comfortable in our bright pink space. Despite their reluctance to touch the toys I showed them, they each managed to stack up neat piles of goodies on the counter. As they were about to leave, one of the sisters turned to me and said such a heartfelt thanks, I almost got teary eyed.
It turned out that her body had changed so much after several natural births that she no longer recognised it as her own. It didn’t look like her body; it didn’t behave like her body, it didn’t feel like her body… By spending a good hour with them, showing a number of products that I believed would be suitable for their particular needs, I had, without realising it, helped her to think differently about this ‘new’ body and what it might like.
And *that* is exactly what it’s all about.
As fun and silly as my job is, there is also a very serious side to it. What we do empowers women, permits them to seek out sexual pleasure in its various forms and ensures they have the right tools and information to be able to do it safely.
Talking about sex comes naturally to me (I am Swedish, so that might explain it), so naturally that I teach classes on the subject. Our most popular class is Blow His Mind – a beginner’s guide to the fine art of fellatio. We talk anatomy, tips & tricks to help with sticky moments and how to make his come taste better… Guests usually leave our classes covered in lube and hooting with laughter. It’s not unusual for guests to email us afterwards, telling us how the ‘homework’ went. One lady told us how her husband was so pleased he could barely walk! Now if that isn’t the best review, I don’t know what is..!
We also host regular erotic art exhibitions, book launches and erotic book readings by the lovely likes of Ms Jaybee here. And, talking about erotica, if you (like me) enjoy hot stories I would recommend you pop along to the Sh! Girlz blog as we have a freebie-stories every Friday! A long list of the very best authors of ‘erotic romance’ (smut, to you and me!) have donated excerpts and stories to get us all in the mood, and what better way to start the weekend! Kay’s filthy treat will be posted on Friday 8th March, so make sure you check it out!
Sh! is the UK’s first and still only truly female-focused sex shop. Men are welcome when accompanied by a female, or if they prefer to shop solo we run Gent’s Nite’s every Tuesday 6-8pm. Our website is full of fun toys and helpful tips: www.sh-womenstore.com , or if you’d prefer to visit in person you’ll find us at: 57 Hoxton Square, LondonN1 6PB.
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~ Thank you soo much for having me Kay, it’s been a delight! ~
A huge thanks to you Renee, for taking the time to write this fabulous- and funny- blog. What an incredible job you have! I can’t wait to see you again in person on 20th April, when fellow author Kd Grace, and myself, invade Sh! once again with a naughty reading or two!! If you’d like to book a spot to come and listen, and perhaps meet the wonderful Renee in person, then follow this link!