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Being Out There: Expecting Flaming Torches, But Getting Hugs…

I walked into one of my local shops today, a massive establishment that sells pretty much everything and anything you could possibly want (in my case, a roll of freezer bags). As I walked along the aisle I was stopped by one of the assistants, who I know a little because she used to run a coffee shop. She had seen one of the many newspaper articles that have appeared down here in Devon, featuring my ETO Best Erotic Writer win.

WMN 2015- ETO win

I braced myself- I have been convinced that eventually someone was going to tell me they  disapprove of what I do- would this be the day?


Far from it in fact. Her congratulations were heartfelt and geniune. Floating on the kindness of her words, I thanked her heartily and proceeded to the till at the other end of the shop.

No sooner had I put the bags on the counter so I could fish my purse from the dangerous depths of my handbag, when I was surrounded by shop assistants all wanting to hear about my ‘Mummy Porn.’ Before I’d left the shop I’d been relieved of all the business cards I had about my person, and many a plea to keep writing, and I quote, “Mummy porn that is a good story rather than that daft Grey stuff.”

I left without commenting on that, but thanked them, and feeling good, began to walk home. As I walked, I got to thinking. I’d been so nervous about going public about the award. Everyone locally knows about my Jenny Kane side- but then romance writing and children’s picture books are hardly controversial- but erotica…Rightly or wrongly its writers are judged, and I had nightmares about the locals all arriving in a mass on my front lawn with pitchforks and flaming torches to hand.

Flaming torch

The reality has been 100% the opposite. People range from being fascinated by it, thrilled for me, and – and this is the clincher- they are more pleased that I beat E L James than about the real reason for the win.

I’m under no illusions here. If James hadn’t been in the nomination line up to win the Best Erotica Writer then ..

a) The newspapers, radio etc wouldn’t have been interested in my story.

b) I wouldn’t have taken the plunge and ‘come out’ locally, so I could take advantage of the marketing possibilities because James was in the line up.

c) The positive publicity for my work wouldn’t have been the same if I’d been up against a line up made up purely of erotica writers- because very few people have ever heard of the good ones.

There are so many brilliant erotica writers out there- you won’t have heard of them if you don’t read the genre- but through brilliant marketing, everyone has heard of James, which made my win even more special to me.

ETO Awards trophy and champ 2015

So, thank you my lovely townsfolk. Your support has been so kind.

And- it has to be said- thank you to Ms E L James- if you hadn’t been in the line up, I’d never have got so much kudos for my win. Funny how life turns out isn’t it!

Happy reading,

Kay x

(For my thoughts on the difference between hot romance, and why it should not be labelled erotica, see my blog on Jilly Boyd’s brilliant web site – http://ladylaidbare.com/2015/07/15/kay-jaybee-erotica-eto/)


Winning Best Erotic Author 2015: The Pain in the Butt Angle!

There are a few things in life that I can guarantee will make me happy- time with my family, my friends, chocolate (of course!), old episodes of Robin of Sherwood, coffee (black please- no sugar)- and writing.

Ever since I picked up a pen at the tender age of 33, and began writing an erotic story on a paper napkin for no real reason whatsoever, I’ve been addicted. Writing has taken over my life. More than that- it has become what makes me get up in the morning, what drives me to rarely stop working, and what makes me tick.

AGOC completed on laptop

You can imagine therefore, how excited I was in 2013 to be nominated for the Best Erotica Writer award at the ETO. Then I was nominated again in 2014, when my gorgeous and very deserving friend Kd Grace won. It was so amazing- and I was so happy for her- we really partied!! And if you have ever seen the Brit Babes in full party mode then you’ll know what I mean!!

When I was nominated this year, I was less excited. E L James was up for the awards as well, and so I assumed she would win. This is, after all, a trade award. Love her work or hate it, you can’t deny that while her existence has damaged the erotica writing world, it has been a total god send for the sex toy trade. (Which is largely what the ETO is about!)

ETO award noms

As you will gather from the title of this blog however- I was very wrong. And I won! How totally amazing, and cool, and wondrous, and incredible, and lots of other big long happy words, is that?

At this point in my blog it would be traditional to show you a whole heap of pictures of myself partying with fellow Brit Babes, Kd Grace, Lexie Bay, Tabitha Rayne and Lily Harlem- all of whom came along to cheer myself and Kd (also nominated for the award) along. However, you’ll just have to look at my lovely trophy instead, because life had other plans for me on Sunday night!

ETO Awards trophy and champ 2015Rather than be at the show, I was laid up in my hotel room at the Crowne Plaza, NEC, having spent the previous day in Worcester A&E. My right leg decided, without the courtesy of any sort of warning, to stop working. Not only that, but it did it in style- or as I put it ‘OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!’

The lovely Dr Jaybee and myself were having a walk in the Malvern Hills prior to arrival at the NEC to celebrate his birthday- when my leg simply gave way. So off we went to Worcester A&E- with me sitting on a dog cushion (surprisingly cosy for the butt afflicted) – and waited for an entire lifetime to be seen by a lovely doctor, who prodded me (steady!) with great skill, and discovered I had trapped nerve buried deep in my right buttock. Well- if an erotica writer is going to have a painful injury, then that isn’t a bad one! At least it’s a talking point!!

So- with a feeling of massive disappointment and dosed to the eyeballs on painkillers  – I headed to the Crowne Plaza Hotel at the NEC, where all my lovely friends were staying for the ETO Show and awards, and went straight to bed.

ETO 2015- hotel

At this point of course, I was still convinced I wouldn’t win, so while I was very disappointed not to be walking around the show, and even more gutted that I wouldn’t be joining Brit Babes, Kd Grace, Lily Harlem Lexie Bay and Tabitha Rayne, or my lovely friends Cara Sutra, Ruby Kiddell, and Renee from Sh! for the awards meal, I was also resigned to the fact. I couldn’t sit down, let alone walk! Lying on my back was the only option!

Being looked after like my wonderful husband, who was a total star – even though it was his birthday and he had to carry me everywhere- I listened to everyone go off and party. It was very strange, and I confess, I was a bit down in the dumps.

Lexie, Tabitha, Kd, and Lily's back!

Lexie, Tabitha, Kd, and Lily’s back!

With a running commentary from Lily, Tabitha, Lexie and Kd via our mobiles, I was kept informed of events via the wonder of technology. But when the awards started I felt nothing- no tension or anything like I did last year when I was actually there. I can clearly remember how exciting it was in 2014- how much we cheered for Kd, and how we all danced for her. I have never been so proud of my friend in my life! It was a special moment I will never forget.

This year, cosy in my hotel robe, and with my lovely husband keeping me going with his constant support and supply of chocolate, it was like it wasn’t actually happening.

Then the moment for the author award came- and I had a tweet come through from the gorgeous Modesty Ablaze saying ‘Well done’- I was confused. Then Lucy Felthouse texted me, saying ‘Congratulations’ – I had won. I was 200 yds away- and couldn’t hear any of the music, or the applause, or see my name on the stage, or anything- but I’d done it. I’d won something! Oh course, I hadn’t heard from the girls who’d been texting me- they were all on stage collecting my award for me!

This took a while to sink in. I never win things. I have been second for everything all my life. This is not something I worry about- I work hard, and that’s all that counts- but this time I’d won.

Immediately FB and Twitter went crackers- photos of the Brit Babes collecting the award for me, partying for me, and singing my praises (I love those girls!) came through to me. And I just lay there asking my husband if I was hallucinating on the drugs!

An hour later I got a text from Kd- she had my award and was on her way to the hotel!! Well, you can imagine! I SO wanted to see her and that award- I had to see it was real! So with more help from lovely Dr J, I got dressed, and headed slowly to the foyer, just in time to see Kd and her husband arrive. Forgive the next photo- I am not looking at my best!!

A poorly Kay with Kd Grace

A poorly Kay with Kd Grace

Unable to stand for long, I was soon back in bed, and more acceptable photos were taken!

ETO awards 2015

So it was real! After a lifetime of winning nothing, I’d won- and missed the party! That is SO me!! However- what is more important is –

1.- I have the most amazing friends in the world, who supported me big time.

2- My husband is the most patient man in the universe.

3- I can walk. (HUGE thanks to the staff at Worcester A&E- you were wonderful)

4- I have one hell of an alternative ETO tale to tell!

5- And call me petty, but I beat E L James!!! (That shouldn’t make me happy, but it does! We all have our flaws!!)

One of the advantages with not being there, is I’ve had time to think of what I would have said, if I had gone to collect my award. Of course, in reality I’d have been tongue tied, but if possible- I’d have said this-

Erotica is in danger of dying. It has been taken over by a whole host of pseudo erotica. If you want to read well written erotica- actual erotica, not hot romance- (which I have nothing against at all, except for the fact it is called erotica when it isn’t)- then it is out there. Look at the Brit Babes work- look at Justine Elyot, Janine Ashbliss, Ashley Lister…and many many more It’s out there- it’s well written, it is intelligent, it has real storylines- all you have to do is look for it.”

I’ll leave you in peace now! Please accept my hearty thanks if you voted for me. Also- a big thank you to the ETO for running such a fab event.

Last of all- thank you Brit Babes and the Brit Babes Street Team- what would  I do without  you all!

ETO- accepting 2014 Xcite award

2014 Awards with Kd Grace


Happy reading,

Kay xxx

PS- please forgive the awful punctuation etc – still dosed on painkillers and not 100% concentrating!




ETO Awards: The Best Erotica Writer of 2015 is…

I’m a thrilled to bits to be able to announce that, for the third year running, I have been nominated for the ETO’s Best Erotica Author of the Year award!!

ETO 2015

As ever, the competition is fierce!! So if you’re in the trade, and eligible to vote, make sure you do!! erotictradeonly.com

ETO award noms

The choice is between myself (novels, novellas, and short stories), my fellow Brit Babe, Kd Grace (novels, novellas, and short stories), EL James (nothing since 2012), Tiffany Reisz (romances with sexy episodes), and Emily Dubberly (series of quick erotic reads). I’m glad I don’t have to choose the winner!!

There are loads of other categories to vote for as well, including Best Journalist, Best Shop Manager, Best On-line Retailer and so on…

Congratulations to everyone who has been nominated!!!

Huge thanks in advance for voting, and for supporting the ETO!

Kay xxx

Looking Back at 2014- Part 2: 10 Years of Writing Erotica


 Happy New Year!


Hello again- after my little look back at the non-writing part of my life yesterday, today I’m reflecting on my year in erotica.

As ever, so much seems to have happened!! 2014 began with the release of my anthology of Male domination and Female submission stories – Take Control.


Take Control is a collection of toe-curlingly sexy tales of bondage and female submission from the pen of best-selling writer Kay Jaybee. From the spankingly delicious Dinner With Tess to a Staged public sex fantasy, an unforgettable alfresco hosing in Deluged, a kinky scientific Experiment, and the realisation of a long-held threesome fantasy in The Necklace, Take Control offers five bite-sized stories that will satisfy any lover of quality erotica.

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Not long after that, in February, myself and my fellow Brit Babes launched our very first (there will be more) anthology!! Totally free in e-format- you can enjoy some fabulous stories from a wide variety of erotica genres.


Sexy Just Walked Into Town is a collection of delicious erotic and romantic stories from the Brit Babes. These eight British authors have put together a book of tales to tease and tantalise you, each one a sample of the individual Babes’ voices and styles. You’ll find contemporary, BDSM, same-sex loving, ménage a trois, paranormal, sporty, military, Rubenesque and more. There’s something to suit everyone here including a few Brit Babe collaborations.
Ranging from sweetly vanilla to so-hot-it-will-blow-your-mind, the Brit Babes aim to please in every literary fantasy department. Their heroes are strong, determined and soul-achingly divine and their heroines sassy, sexy and not afraid to grab what they want. Passion and pleasure is the name of the game, romance and raunch a top priority and it all comes with a delightful sprinkle of kink.
With a whole host of awards, best-sellers and accolades between them, the Babes just know you’ll find something in this anthology that will keep you turning the pages and squirming on your seat. Then, if you like what you read here, check out the individual authors’ websites to investigate their collection of published works. Also visit the Brit Babes’ home on the web which acts as a library for the hundreds of books published by them. Tell your friends, spread the word, because one thing you can be sure of, is when the Brit Babes arrive, sexy has just walked into town!

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The majority of the first part of 2014 saw me writing my last major adventure for Miss Jess Sanders- and in May, I was delighted to announce the publication of the third instalment of The Perfect Submissive TrilogyKnowing Her Place.

Knowing Her Place-New rope


With her head full of unanswered questions, exhausted from her fairytale experience at the hands of Dr Ewen, Lady Tia, and the staff of the adult entertainment service provided by The Retreat, Jess Sanders is desperate to leave Scotland, and return to her usual submissive position at the exclusive Fables Hotel in Oxford.

Having been thwarted in his plans to keep Jess at The Retreat permanently, its owner, David Proctor, isn’t willing to let Jess go back to her dominatrix, Miss Sarah, and her employer, Mrs Peters, without sending her on one final mission. Only if she succeeds in her task will Proctor remove the collar of servitude he has locked around Jess’s neck.

With a list of five unknown addresses in her hand, Jess Sanders is placed in a car and driven from The Retreat towards England. With no idea what or who awaits her at the first stop, all Jess can hope for is that her journey will eventually take her back to where she belongs.

To the Fables Hotel, where Jess Sanders truly knows her place.

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It was a very strange sensation saying goodbye to Miss Jess Sanders this year – I’m really going to miss her!!

Paddle at the Ready- Smut by the Sea

Paddle at the Ready- Smut by the Sea

Late Spring also saw my very first Smut event- Smut by the Sea– Scarborough!! As you can imagine, I had a fantastic time- especially as I got to meet many of the Brit Babes street team members! Not only that, but I was given the job of being ‘timer’ during the reading slam- a task I employed with relish!! Never let it be said I can’t wield a paddle…

ETO- accepting 2014 Xcite award

Hot on the heels of this release came the annual ETO Show and Awards- and to be delight and utter amazement, I received a nomination for Best Erotica Writer!!! What an honour!!! An honour that was tripled by being up against 2 of my fellow Brit Babes- Lucy Felthouse and Kd Grace!! When Kd won I am not sure who was prouder- me or her husband!!! Then- when our main publisher, Xcite Books, won Best Erotica Publisher- and we had to collect the award on their behalf, I thought I’d pop with pride.

My ETO experience was made ven better by being joined by fellow Brit Babes Tabitha Rayne, Victoria Blisse, and Lexie Bay- I’ll never forget the moment when we all tasted Lube Ice cream!

ice cream kd vic

September 2014 was a landmark date for me- for that saw my 10th Anniversary of writing erotica!! So much has changed since I began to write- and you can read all my thoughts on the subject here.

I was touched to be asked to write about the changes to the erotica writing business I’ve seen over the past decade by the ETO- and was flattered by all the kind messages about my writing that came from my loyal readers- I appreciate each and every one- thank you.

ETO- 10 yrs of KJBa

Unusually for me, I didn’t write very much erotica for the remainder of 2014- the ‘other me’ Jenny Kane, took up a great deal of my time with her cosier romantic fiction- however, I never stop writing short stories, and I was thrilled to be asked to contribute to a number of anthologies, including Sapphic Smut, The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica, and The Mammoth Book of Erotic Romance and Domination.

Sapphic SmutThe Sexy Librarian's Big Book of EroticaThe Mammoth Book of Erotic Romance and Domination

Which brings us right up to date- and looking ahead to 2015.

Any day now I’ll be announcing the release of a new series of mini stories…

…and then in February- for one more story only- Miss Jess Sanders will be facing her last challenge at the Fables Hotel. My perfect submissive will back for a bonus story to celebrate the release of The Perfect Submissive Trilogy in boxset format!!

After that…well you’ll find out…

Happy New Year to you all- and thank you for all your support.

Kay xxxxx


ETO 2014 – A Brit Babe Weekend!

My eyes are just about open as I write this blog on my way home from the ETO awards and show for 2014!


What an occasion! Not only did I get to look around the wonderful stalls, marvel at the vast arrange of sex toys and erotically enhancing products that make even my imagination boggle,  but I got to hang out with four of my fellow Brit Babes!

Lexie, Victoria, Kay, Kd and Tabitha

Lexie, Victoria, Kay, Kd and Tabitha

As all the Brit Babes live miles from each other, literally from the top to the bottom of the UK,  we rarely all meet in person. So you can imagine how much catching up we had to do as Lexie Bay, Victoria Blisse,  Tabitha Rayne,  Kd Grace and myself chilled over coffee, laughed over cockrings, and snacked in fine style on delicious fruit flavoured lube covered ice cream, courtesy of the lovely Becky at System Jo– yes really! The only thing that could have improved it, is I missing Babes, Lucy Felthouse, Lily Harlem, and Emmy Ellis could have been there.

Eating Lube Flavoured Ice Cream!!

Eating Lube Flavoured Ice Cream!!

lexie and lube

Lexie Picking A Lube Flavour!

Then, still digesting our unexpected snack, we zipped back to the hotel to prepare for the main event- the ETO awards!
With 3 Brit Babes up for the Best Erotica Author Award- (myself, Kd Grace and Lucy Felthouse)- spirits were high as we donned our posh frocks.

Vic and TAb

Victoria and Tabitha

Lexie and Kay

Kay and Lexie

The meal was delicious,  but was soon over, and before we knew it the ceremony had begun.

Dale Bradford and Lee Schofield hosted the event with style and opposing coloured suits- and it all seemed to happen so fast!

From Best Stand to Best Consumable, and on to Best Lingerie Retailer… in no time it was time for Best Erotic Book Brand.

Kd and I had been elected to represent Xcite books,  but as they had already won for four years running, we’d assumed someone else would win- but no! Fifth year running!
We were up on that stage receiving cheers and claps. Magic moment. Very proud that my work might have helped with the win in a small way!

Collecting the Best Erotic Book Brand for Xcite

Collecting the Best Erotic Book Brand for Xcite

It only seemed like seconds later that the best author category came round.
With Sylvia Day and Violet Blue in the running us Brit Babes had a tough call to win. But we did SO want one of us to win- and I am delighted to say my dearest friend, and right arm, Kd Grace got it!

Kd Grace Gets Best Erotica Author Award!

Kd Grace Gets Best Erotica Author Award!

I couldn’t be more thrilled. So well deserved. Kd was- without doubt- the best writer of erotica from the five nominated- and my voice is still hoarse from cheering and my hands are sore from clapping!

Five Brit Babes and Two Awards!

Five Brit Babes and Two Awards!

I’ve had some wonderful emails and messages from people saying how sorry they were I didn’t win. Thanks to you all- but don’t you be sorry- I am on cloud nine!  I know it is the ‘done thing’ to say how proud I am of Kd, and that I don’t mind not winning.  But I am an erotica writer- I don’t do the done thing. So when I say that, I mean every word of it. I couldn’t be prouder of Kd if I tried!! Frankly the Brit Babes rock! And boy did we whoop up the fun in the dancing afterwards!

Anyway, back to the awards ..

Next was Best Journalist and our table was on its feet again as Cara Sutra won her second award- and then, to add a cherry to our cupcake- Renee Deyer of Sh won Best Manager. In each case, a better person could not have won. They both work so hard and, on a personal level,  have done so much for erotic writing, that we writers were backing them both to the hilt.

With happy tears in our eyes,  sore throats, and heads buzzing with it all we hit the dance floor.
The music was fantastic, with vocalists who were top notch.

Then it was back to the hotel were we chatted until the wee small hours.

awards and champ

And now, after a bleary but happy breakfast, I am on my way back to reality.


What can I say?
Thanks ETO.
Thanks to everyone who voted
Massive congratulations to all the nominees and winners.
Oh- and see you next year!

Happy reading

Kay xx

PS- More photos to follow x

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