Everyone Needs A Bedtime Story

Tag: review Page 1 of 2

Freedom in Bonds: Over the Door Restraint

Freedom in Bonds: Over the Door Restraint

#ad #restraint #erotica #exploration #Lovehoney #kinkyplay #sextoys #fun

There is a certain fascination regarding the concept of consensual bondage; the voluntary surrender of the use of either arms, legs – or both – during the act of sex.  It is no accident that restraint often features within the most popular erotic stories and movies. It turns so many of us on in our own fantasy worlds, and for an ever-growing number of people, in their private lives as well.

While it might, ostensibly, appear strange to find enjoyment in a level of captivity, there is no doubt, that the use of #bondage during #eroticplay can be exciting and satisfying.  The use of restraints, be they cuffs, spreaders, ropes and so on, can produce a level of intoxicating anticipation in the submissive part of the partnership. This arousal is based, largely, on the knowledge that they are completely within the control of the person they are with, and trust. It is the not knowing what might happen while they are bound, along with physical sensations applied, which can produce an enhancement to climax that they might not experience in a more vanilla environment.

Meanwhile, for the dominant, or leader within the moment of sexual play, there comes an adrenalin rush; a sense of desire heightened by the ability to be able to choose how they will pleasure their partner. Often this enjoyment comes, not just from applying stimulation, but from the visual, voyeuristic, pleasure this will, in turn, bring them. They are creating their own private, consensual, erotic tableau.

Thanks to the ever-increasing availability of sex toys, the possibilities within the world of sexual restraint are wide and varied. Recently, my friends at Lovehoney asked me to review one such item, their Purple Reins, Over the Door Restraint.

As you can see from the photograph above, this device is both attractive and easy to use. Place the short baton (attached to the soft webbing during manufacture) over the top of a standard internal door, and then close said door. The restraint is then ready to use.

Velcro fastened cuffs (soft and comfortable) hang a short way down the door, so that the submissive in question can reach up and have their wrists secured safely.

Arms up, this simple restraint allows freedom of movement for the rest of the body, while preventing the use of hands or arms.

The immediate effect of being secured in such a way is a heightening of the senses. Every nerve in the body feels more sensitive and open as, while secured, you try to second guess all the delicious things that may await you. This notion of “what will happen to me next” is an arousing as any pre-imagined sexual fantasy as you wait in a state of willing helplessness.

Used just as it is, the over the door restraint (available in black or purple) is comfortable to wear, massive fun, makes you feel sexy on the inside and outside, and can add a new dimension to your sex life.

If you are new to bondage sex, this is a great toy to start with. It feels safe and, by stretching your arms upwards, immediately enhances body shape and therefore confidence. Use for short periods to begin with, increasing the restrained period of time as you become accustomed to the toy and the increased pleasure it will bring you.

For more experienced users of bdsm equipment, why not add a blindfold, nipple clamps, or even the use of ankle cuffs and a spreader for a fuller bondage set experience? Then the fireworks really can begin to fly…

Many thanks to Lovehoney for providing the Purple Over the Door Restraint for me to review in this #ad blog.

Happy (and safe) playing, everyone.

Kay

 

Fetish.com: Site Review

I have spent far longer writing this site review than I have or any other – there is a very good reason for this. There is just so much to see at Fetish.com!

I’ll start this review with those all important first impressions- Fetish.com is bright, accessible, user friendly and non-threatening. It only takes a few minutes after joining Fetish to realise there is something there for everyone. And I do mean everyone.

Primarily of course, Fetish.com is a resource for those who want to meet other like-minded folk. The chat rooms and contact facilities are easy to use and wide ranging. Within only minutes of joining the site I was the lucky recipient of many messages- and more excitingly for me- several virtual spanks. (OK- so maybe I shouldn’t like those as much as I do- but hey- why not?). Associated with the dating possibilities and meeting opportunities, are regular updates on forthcoming events for those who live the scene (such as those run by my lovely friends at Smut UK up in the Manchester region). It is a straight forward process to narrow down the hunt for events local to your geographical area and personal tastes.

Talking of straight forward – joining Fetish.com is refreshingly simple. (Providing you are OVER 18). There are no hoops to jump through; simply invent a nickname that you want to be known by on the site, make up a password, and have your email address (which will not be shared) on hand. I would recommend you have a photograph at the ready as well- one that you are happy to share. This will add that extra level to your profile, and guarantee you more interaction if you are joining Fetish for community/chat/potential dating interaction. (Obviously, if you are not joining to meet people or make friends, then a photograph is less important.)

Fetish.com is not just an excellent place for those who are into the scene. It is also a safe place for the curious to explore. At some time in most people’s lives, curiosity strikes where the world of fetish sex is concerned. What is it like? Would I like it? How can it be arousing? What do people get out of it? The questions are endless. Not everyone wants to explore the possibilities in reality, but they like the idea and it is enough for them to fantasise about what intrigues them without having to join in. The voyeuristic peeping into the fetish world is as enticing and fulfilling for some as active involvement is for others – and Fetish.com accepts and embraces that.

My favourite part of Fetish is without doubt the magazine. There are many excellent articles available – from everything you ever needed to know about sex toys- how to equip a pony play stable- which are the best collars and cuffs to use – and how to ‘get medical.’ Fun and safety are addressed in equal measure- but without being preachy. I was particularly impressed with a recent post on the horror of ‘Kink Shaming’, and another about how to make long distance BDSM relationships work. This latter post I have since recommended to a number of friends who have struggled with such an issue in the past.

Much of being an erotica writer calls upon my inner voyeur. This makes Fetish a great place to visit for my business side as well as for pleasure. Reading the articles helps me gauge my audience and develop my story lines so that they appeal to as many people as possible- as well as helping me to keep up with current trends in the fetish world.

Fetish.com is a wonderful space for everyone – from those who want to learn more about the lifestyle without necessarily getting involved, to those who embrace the fetish world on a daily basis.

My over riding impression of Fetish.com is that it engenders trust, displays fun, and accepts every fetish as an equal with every other. Sadly, this is not always the case on BDSM and fetish based sites.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I think I’ll go and check out the forum….

Kay xx

 

 

 

Sex Toy Review: Hands Free Dildo Fun

To my delight I was recently approached by Carvaka to review a few of their products. How could a girl refuse?

Today I am reviewing  the Aphrodisia 8 Inch Carved Dildo

So- first things first – here’s the official blurb…

The 8 Inch Carved Dildo is a bigger version of the 7 Inch Carved Dildo (also available from Carvaka). It features the same fantastic realistic design but has been moved up a size for greater and deeper penetration! The shaft is covered in bulging veins and has a large glans head. It has an insertable length of 6.5 inches and a girth of 5.8 inches at its widest point. The base features a very strong suction cup which you can attach to walls or tables for some fun hands-free play!

My Review

At 8.8 inches in  length (5.5 of which are insertable), and 5.6 inches wide, this is one hefty beast. The jelly rubber shaft is solid , and feels nice in the hands. However, it is the suction cap on the end of the dido that makes this sex toy such a winner.

Best adhered to flat areas- although it does well on the side of the bath for time- the suction feature allows the user to employ their hands elsewhere, for additional masturbation fun.

Soft, yet hard, (if that makes sense!), it is flexible and very comfortable and satisfying to use. (Obviously if you are allergic to rubber/jelly rubber this is not the toy for you). It is also wide! Lots of lube/ finger play build up required if you are of the smaller persuasion girls and boys.

Although I can’t speak from experience on this additional point- I can imagine that it would be a brilliant toy when employed by a couple as well…

The price, only £10.99, makes this dildo a bargain- even if you don’t utilises the suction facility. (The suction cap end makes a very good ‘holding area’ for personal thrusting! You can buy this solid mass of fun here-https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/8-inch-carved-dildo.html 

You can see more details- and a sort YouTube video here.

Happy playing everyone,

Kay xx

 

Sex Toy Review: Vibe-O-Matic

To my delight I was recently approached by Carvaka to review a few of their products. How could a girl refuse?

I’m kicking off with a review of the Vibe-O-Matic– 10 Function Waterproof Bunny Rabbit Vibrator.

So- first things first. Yes, the name does sound like something out of a Looney Tunes cartoon – that however, is where the similarity with Bugs Bunny and crew end.

Secondly- yes, it is very very very pink. You will not lose this on a dark night!

So- here’s the official blurbA variation on the Honey Bunny 10 Function Rabbit Vibrator, the Vibe-O-Matic 10 Function Waterproof Bunny Rabbit Vibrator boasts the same delightful 10 vibration settings, bright colour and powerful vibrations except with a beautiful curved shaft allowing for some great g-spot stimulation. Also, let’s not forget that cute little bunny rabbit with extra long ears to deliver those vibrations straight to your clitoris! Measuring 4.25 inches of insertable length and 3.25 inches in girth and being 100% waterproof and whisper quiet, why not try this rabbit out in the bath or shower! Available in pink, this rabbit will certainly brighten up your collection and escalate your pleasure!

 ***

Kay’s review-

At only £12.99 this really is something of a bargain.

It feels lovely in the hands. Smooth and soft, despite being extremely sturdy. It feels good against the skin even when it isn’t on.

The 10 different vibration settings are pretty fierce, making it a great tool if you want a mega quickie. If you want things to last a little longer, then go easy on the scale up button pressing. Even the lowest speed is powerful stuff.

There is as much pleasure to be found from teasing the shaft over and around the erogenous zones (all of them!) than from insertion.

The bunny ears extra long ears will be a blessing for some and a pain for others. For me they were simply too long and they got a bit irritating. However, we are all different shapes and sizes, and I have no problem in imaging that for others those cute ears would provide joy.

The length and girth of this bunny are spot on, and its waterproof function means that bath time is certainly less of a chore!

In summary – this is a great, reasonably priced, toy for a moment’s stolen pleasure. It is also a wonderful toy to hand over to your partner. Its power as a teaser for pleasures yet to come when used as a couple – or more –bring things toy into its own.

You can check out the Vibe-O-Matic on the Carvaka web site. Don’t miss the You Tube clip!- https://carvakasextoys.co.uk/vibe-o-matic-10-function-waterproof-bunny-rabbit-vibrator.html

I’ll be back soon with another review!

Happy playing,

Kay xx

Sex Toy Review: Sportsheets Neck and Wrist Restraint

As followers of this blog will know, I rarely do reviews for books these days.  And you are even less likely to find a sex toy review on this site – alas, time is just so short these days!

Bondage Bunnies black

However, the lovely people at Bondage Bunnies were recently kind enough to send me an item to test for them. The sort of item that would feel very at home amongst Mrs Peters collection on the fifth floor of the Fables Hotel in The Perfect Submissive Trilogy!

20160823_114753

 

Quite simply, the Sportsheets Neck and Wrist Restraint is a must in the tool kit of any BDSM practitioner. It is the perfect next step for anyone who enjoys using handcuffs, but wants to ‘up the game.’

Beautifully crafted to give numerous different options within one easy to use product, this item will hold your Sub so that he, or she, is restrained against themselves, or in conjunction to any object you see fit.

Attached to the body via a comfortable, easily adjustable, neck strap, the Neck and Wrist Restraint is made from a strong strip of heavy duty webbing (20 inches in length), with 9 D rings against its side; onto which you can clip anything you wish. (A lead with which to take your Sub for a walk  would be my personal first item of choice- but hey, I’m a control freak…)

With a pair of adjustable neoprene cuffs, that can be attached to any of the D-rings, as part of the package, you can bind your partner at the wrists or the ankles. As the cuffs are comfortable, and can fit most widths of wrists and ankles, then problems of the restraint being too big or small are non-existent. (And of course, you can always make an additional purchase, and add an extra pair of cuffs via the D rings, and secure both wrists and ankles at the same time)

20160823_114905

Fixed at the neck and wrists using Velcro, the material is wonderfully soft. It should not leave abrasive marks against the skin, even after long term use..

This is not an easy restraint for anyone to escape from unaided (although in the interests of safety it is not impossible). But then, why would you want to escape when so much fun and sexual gratification awaits you?

If you enjoy testing your own sexual boundaries, or those of your partner- if you want to discover just how far you are both willing to push yourselves into the arena of submissive and dominator, then this is precisely the item you’ve been looking for.

I may just have to tell Mrs Peters and Miss Sarah about this restraint…just in case they haven’t purchased it yet…

If you want to look at more restraints as well as this one- check out https://www.bondagebunnies.co.uk/collections/bondage-gear/restraints/

Happy experimenting,

Kay x

 

Page 1 of 2

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén