Today I am joined by Joan Price, a senior sex expert who has just written The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty. As you can imagine, I had some questions I was just dying to ask her.
Most sex guides are aimed at the 20-30 age groups. What made you decide to write a book specifically for the 50+ population?
JP: Exactly because most sex guides are for younger folks! At 20-30, you’re discovering what works for you sexually, how to communicate what you need to your partner, how to satisfy yourself on your own, and how to please a partner. At our age (I’m 71 as I answer your questions), the issues are similar, but not the same. We’ve had a half century or more of figuring out our sexual needs, but now we’re walloped by physiological changes, relationship changes, emotional changes. We need to educate ourselves all over again to keep sex vital throughout the rest of our lives.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty is actually my third sex guide for the over 50 population. Each time I go deeper into the concerns that affect my age group. This latest book is the most comprehensive yet, with a lot of medical information as well as relationships, dating, safer sex, and all those other topics that affect us.
Do you find that people over 50 find it more difficult to talk about sex than younger folk?
JP: It depends. Many people in their fifties and sixties are used to talking about sex, but they’re not used to admitting that they’re having sexual problems. People over 70 had a more repressed upbringing – their sex education was more “don’t do it” than “here’s how to make sex satisfying.”
Do you think people who are over 50 need different advice to those ten or twenty years younger?
JP: Sure, because many of the issues are different. People 50 to 80-plus may experience arousal difficulties, orgasm difficulties, erectile dysfunction or undependable erections, medical conditions and medications that affect sexual function or sensation, stale relationships, a partner’s reluctance to spice up the relationship, the challenges of being single after decades of being partnered, and so much more.
Can you tell us a little about yourself? Website/blog links?
JP: I’ve led many lives! I was a high school English teacher for 22 years. Then I was a fitness instructor and health/fitness writer for 15 years or so. I started writing about senior sex at age 60 because I was in a passionate love affair with the love of my life, the artist Robert Rice.
We met when I was 57 and Robert was 64, and it was the best sex and the best love relationship either of us had ever experienced. That led me to write Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, to celebrate the joys of senior sex. After that, huge numbers of seniors started sending me their stories and asking me their questions about how to improve their sex lives, so I wrote Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, which won two major awards. Then I edited a hot, steamy anthology of erotica featuring writers over 50 and characters over 50: Ageless Erotica.
There was still more to say, still more questions to answer, still more people who wanted help resolving their problems, so I spent the last year and a half writing the most comprehensive self-help book on senior sex: The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty, which just came out January 2015. I’m very proud of it.
Joan Price website: http://www.joanprice.com/
Naked at Our Age blog: http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com
Better Than I Ever Expected US: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580051529/ref=nosim/joanprice-20
Better Than I Ever Expected UK:
Naked at Our Age US: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580053386/ref=nosim/joanprice-20
Naked at Our Age UK:
Ageless Erotica US:
Ageless Erotica UK:
The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty US: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1627780963/ref=nosim/joanprice-20
The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty UK:
I’d like to pass on my thanks to Joan- what a brilliant, candid and informative interview. Good luck with your book xx