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Fifteen Years…and counting

This week sees the 15th anniversary of the first time I wrote some erotica! A fact that, in itself, seems impossible to me – a shy, self-conscious, paranoiac woman who has never quite got used to the fact that people actually want to by her books!

I still maintain that- if that very first story hadn’t been published- I’d never have picked a pen up for fiction creation ever again.

I am particularly fortunate in that, this year, I’m celebrating this anniversary with a trip to Barcelona courtesy of Fetish.com

Much to my surprise, when I was teaching at the Eroticon event last March, I won the 69 seconds competition…the prize being 2 nights in Barcelona. I fly there today!

You could see how I won my prize here-

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As with any anniversary, I have found myself reflecting on all that has happened to me ‘writing wise’ over the past decade and a half.

What a roller coaster ride it has been. Or perhaps it’s been more of a carousel, a long roundabout of constant ups and downs, but where, ultimately you always end up back where started, and yet you can’t quite stop the ride to get off…?

My first piece of erotica was a written on a paper serviette in a cafe in Aberdeenshire. I swear the idea came to be from nowhere. I don’t know why I was suddenly thinking about a cross dressing male who liked to have his arse spanked- but that is exactly what happened.

It took some time for me to be brave enough to do anything with the story. It was a couple of weeks before it made it onto a proper piece of paper, and several more before it was typed onto my computer and edited into shape. The amount of courage it took me to look up erotica publishers on the Internet- and the covert way I went about it- seems laughable now.

I sent off my story- which I rather unimaginatively had called Jen and Tim to Cleis Press- never expecting to hear anything again, and in the meantime, I’d written a rather kinky poem called Regrets, which I sent to the much missed Oysters and Chocolate web site. Then, I told myself to leave it alone, to look after my children and take up knitting or something. I never expected to hear back from either publisher. I certainly never expected to get both pieces taken- and I truly never expected the buzz the feeling of acceptance gave me- that was it- I was hooked- an addict to the acceptance of a publisher for the rest of my life!

It took 40 short story and poetry publications before I was brave enough to write something longer, and when I did, I cheated.

The Collector is both an anthology and a short novel- a set of different erotic stories- one for every genre within the discipline. I learnt a great deal from writing hat book- and I still hold it in great affection.

Now, 15 years later, with over 200 stories to my name, including many novellas and novels, including the gratifyingly popular The Perfect Submissive Trilogy (The Fifth Floor, The Retreat, Knowing Her Place), I am still addicted, still hungry for the ‘yes’ of a publisher. Having a back record to your name never guarantees a story will be taken, and nor should it. Each new tale I write has to be worth publication on its own merits; it shouldn’t be published just because KJB wrote it.

Over the past 5 years, I’ve had less time to write erotica as I have been fortunate to have some success with my other pen names (Jenny Kane – contemporary fiction and Jennifer Ash – medieval crime), and I’ve set up a creative writing tutoring business called Imagine, (with my friend and colleague, Alison Knight)

Kay is still here however, and I’m pleased to be able to announce that before the end of 2019, my Fem Dom anthology, Yes Ma’am will be re-edited, recovered, and re-released. As well as this, the next anthology (Book Four) in my ‘A Kink a Day’ series will be released.

Meanwhile, my Jenny Kane side is now agent-ed, and excitedly awaiting the publication of a new romcom, and Jennifer Ash is busy writing the forth of The Folville Chronicles.

As well as this, I’ll have some erotica writing workshops up and running in 2020 – so watch this space!

Victoria Blisse, Tabitha Rayne, Kay, and Kd Grace at Eroticon 2019

There are so many people who have helped get me this far. So many friends I’ve made along the way- from the wonderful Brit Babes, to fellow bloggers and writers, to readers and positive sex supporters. I’ve very lucky.

I will end by saying thank you to a few extra special people who’ve helped keep me going on those occasions when the roller-coaster has got stuck at the bottom, or the carousel as jammed on the downward motion.

Kd Grace, Lucy Felthouse, Victoria Blisse, Ashley Lister, Renee and the staff of Sh.

I honestly can’t believe I’m still writing everyday, and living the life I love so much.

THANK YOU

Kay xx

 

 

Erotica brings freedom

A few weeks ago I was lucky enough to teach one of my erotica writing classes at the brilliant Eroticon conference in London. As soon as I walked through the doors, to be surrounded by fellow erotica authors and sex bloggers, I felt relaxed. Not something I’d have thought possible before I entered the world of erotic writing fourteen years ago.

Sadly, I don’t have the time to go to as many such events as I’d like to these days, but every time I do, I’m touched by the same thought- writing and reading erotica gives a slightly different kind of freedom to other styles of writing. it’s all equally valid- but it still feels different.

I was recently reminded of a blog I wrote for Chloe Thurlow some time ago, which plays with this point a little.

Not only is the writer of erotica able to live out any fantasy and scenario in their heads- usually way beyond the remit of what they’d do in real life- but they can take their readers to places they’d never dared go before- and turn them on whilst they are doing so. There is a certain thrill in that knowledge alone. The thought that my words are providing others with the ultimate pleasure, without them having ever met me- wow- that’s powerful stuff!!

 

The following is part of a blog I did for Chloe Thurlow, which expands my point…

…”As Kay Jaybee, I have something of a reputation. I am frequently referred to as the ‘Queen of Kink;’ and when I meet people at readings, I’m often seen with a paddle in hand, skimpily clad, and whip wielding. This ‘adopting of a fantasy’ role is just that: a fantasy. I am, after all, in the happy making business! Would I really want to spank the odd arse and tie up the occasional passing person? Well – yes – of course I would. But would I actually do it? Would I push my own boundaries beyond the realm of paper and pen? Well, that’s up to you and your imagination to decide…

After almost a decade of writing smut I’m more and more convinced that one of the main issues people have with erotica writers isn’t a disapproval of what we write, but a sense of being threatened by it. They (and I know I’m generalising here) are uncomfortable with letting their own imaginations widen; of pushing their own private boundaries a fraction. Are they perhaps afraid of what they may discover about themselves?

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If that sounds like you, then try, just try. Read a little erotica, after all, what happens within the safe confines of your own mind while you are reading it, is for your knowledge alone. The boundaries we push within our own heads – like our dreams – are ours and ours only. They are, in their own way, a special kind of freedom…”

I started to write erotica by accident- but now, fourteen years in- I write it for the sheer exhilaration of it. The freedom of it. Maybe to bring me closer to the person who I’d like to be  if I was a little braver? I’m not sure…but that doesn’t matter- because I do know I’m making a few other people happy with my words.

Isn’t that what we are here for?

Happy reading,

Kay xx

Eroticon Blog 2: After the Workshop

A few days have now passed since the dust settled on the last event of this year’s Eroticon conference in Bristol.

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The first part of my blog report on the event can be found here- If you recall, I began to write that last blog prior to teaching me workshop on musical inspiration. The palms were sweating, and the nerves were on high alert.

It may seem strange to you, that even after teaching so many workshops, that I still get nervous. It will seem less odd perhaps if you think about who came along for my lesson…Ashley Lister, Zak Jane Keir, Jaye Peache, Anna Sky…I could go one!1 These people are seriously excellent writers. What then, are they doing sitting listen to me rumble on? Let me tell you- there is nothing like having some of the people you respect most in the writing world waiting for you to impart knowledge to make your palms sweat!

This year my workshop was something of an experiment. I wanted to see if, under the influence of different types of music, I could help steer a writer’s imagination off into a different direction than the one they’d normally be comfortable in. However- I didn’t tell my class that. If I had, then they’d have got hung up on that fact- instead I gave each person a first line of well known song. This had to form the first line of their work. Then, I played three very different pieces of music.

After listening for 3 minutes with their eyes shut to Kate Bush singing, Man with a Child in His Eyes, the challenge was to write a five minute snapshot from the beginning of a story, using the given lyric to start them off.

Then the process was repeated. This time however they listened to What Have You Done Now? by Within Temptation, and had to produce a 5 minute snapshot from the middle of their new piece, before  final few paragraphs were penned after listening to the late great David Bowie singing Let’s Dance.

This workshop produced some incredibly interesting discussion, and more important, some incredible work. Each person found themselves pushed in a different direction- and found they could write in a way they hadn’t known about before. I am very hopeful that some of those fragmented paragraphs will be joined up in the fullness of time, and we’ll see some extraordinary new erotica as a result.

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Let’s leave my workshop aside and reflect on the remainder of the conference. From a fascinating (and personally very useful) talk by F D Solomon about editing anthologies, to Jilly Boyd’s smutting up of everyday objects, and on to the closing readings – which had us laughing one minute and squirming the way that is all too common amongst erotica writers the next- there really was something for every element of the wordy side of the erotic professions.

A big thank you to Ruby Kiddell for putting together another great conference – her last one. The challenge is now on to see who will take this event on… (and no, I don’t want to put myself forward to run it- but thanks for asking!)

Happy reading,

Kay x

Eroticon 2016: Blog 1- Pre-workshop

As I write this blog, it is Sunday morning, and I’m in a deserted coffee room in a conference centre in Bristol, at Eroticon, rehearsing my talk for later this morning. Everyone else is in their various workshops and talks, and I’m having a small panic.

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I’m not the bravest person in the world, and it never ceases to amaze me that people actually want to hear me talking about writing and impart my ‘wisdom’ (I use the inverted speech marks advisedly). So I’m having a quick run through of my workshop while by dear friend Tabitha is upstairs teaching people how to draw- with the aid of the gorgeous John, and the sex bloggers are having an open question panel. Naturally…I have coffee, and I’m in easy reaching distance of a packet of biscuits (chocolate!)

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Sponsored by Mystic Vibe, Pulse, Doxy, and the gorgeous colourful and eccentric Godemiche, Eroticon Live is Ruby Kiddell’s last event as organiser of this conference.

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I have been to all but one of the Eroticon events- and boy have they made an impact on me over the years. I’ve learnt how to construct some fabulously fun poetry thanks to Ashley Lister, improve my writing curiosity of a wide variety of authors from Kristina Lloyd to Kd Grace.

I’ve had my eyes widened as I’ve watched demonstrations in different forms of kink, and I’ve learnt a great deal about the world of the sex blogger- a life/career that is a million miles away from that of an erotic fiction writer. It takes a very special skill and a great deal of bravery to blog your innermost secrets.

This year, the wondrous folk from Kink Craft are here, helping us cack-handed author and blogger types make latex garters and small floggers- you can imagine the giggles!

 

Katy Swann, Tabitha Rayne, and Ruby Kiddell

Katy Swann, Tabitha Rayne, and Ruby Kiddell

 

As ever of course, it has been the chance to catch up with my writer friends (my lovely Brit Babe friends Tabitha Rayne, Lily Harlem and Kd Grace are here with me, amongst many others), that is the biggest attraction. The opportunity to chat with those folk who I’ve interacted with on Facebook many times, but have never met in real life, and to generally remind myself that I’m not the only person who spends my days hunched over a keyboard, inventing sexy scenarios designed to make other people feel good, is always very welcome

Ashe Baker, myself, Kd Grace, Ashley Lister & Katy Swann

For me- of course- the most incredible thing to have come out of Eroticon is the Brit Babes. Where would I be without them !?

Well, it’s time for my workshop, you I’d better stop waffling…. Wish me luck…

Kay xx

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